Mixed Marriage: Should A Jewish Woman Obey Her Christian Husband?
In a mixed marriage, a woman decided to embrace Judaism and wants to teach her children Torah, but her husband prohibits her. Should she obey her husband? Is she obligated to submit to her Christian husband? Rabbi Tovia Singer responds from the Torah point of view.
“For the husband is the head of the wife…Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence…Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands…And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church…”
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The husband is NOT appointed by God as the ruler of his wife nor is he the supreme authority in their relationship and home.
The book of Timothy is basically Paul’s ‘advice’ to his son–and it’s a bit preachy. Paul claims complete moral authority in his spewings, saying, “ Whereunto I am ordained a preacher, and an apostle, (I speak the truth in Christ, and lie not;) a teacher of the Gentiles in faith and verity.” (Timothy 2:7)
In light of what we know about the history of the west–the rotten subjugation of all people not white and male–it should come as no surprise that women are pretty low on the respect list of Paul (and therefore, of Christ?)
Paul begins by reminding us of a woman’s duty:” Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.(Timothy 2: 11-12)
I’m sure we all agree that Paul must not have had his ‘listening’ ears turned on when Jesus was speaking, right? I mean, what kind of apostle would openly profess such indignity and disrespect to his loyal believers if faith?
“For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” (Timothy 2: 13-14) Paul’s judgment of women is true IF we are to believe the stories of the Old Testament–which Jesus came to fulfill, not destroy. Eve was the one who caused all pain and suffering in the world–by her weakness.
Paul goes on to discuss with his son Timothy the rules for taking in old widows vs. new widows–Old widows BTW are much more apt to believe, so taking them in would be better than the newbies who’ve recently lost their spouse. Paul also mentions the role of women in the church (which is effectively nil).
I find it hard to believe any woman in the Christian faith, given Paul’s attitude in the ‘New’ Testament, would not actively consider changing their perspective on the holiness of every book in the Bible. There is no Bible mining here, I’ve read the whole of Timothy, and as it concerns women, it’s misogynistic and close-minded.
I would prefer to call the Bible what it is, a book of philosophical tenets, composed at a time when humans were trying desperately to make sense of their their world. That way, when we see something that’s obviously false, like Paul’s backward assertions on the role of women, we can just chalk up to ignorance.
We live in a world where girls and women are not the bane of existence: my daughters, while obviously not physically the same as their male counterparts, are equal in virtue. We have fought hard as a society to move past the stupidity of our forefathers–as well as harness their wisdom for future generations.
Or, am I overreacting?